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Sunday, April 15, 2018

Two CEO's, FBI, Homeland Security and Choachella "security" pat themselves on back, when they should be apologizing!


Only weeks after the Vegas Shooting, I began a journey to save events from more tragedies! I wanted to make events safer again. I've planned special events (races, fireworks, concerts, art fest, food fest, cultural events, etc) for over 17 years and love watching families enjoy them! But I knew events would never be the same! I began writing those who I thought might be able to make significant changes to ALL events, that were simple - using technology we already had and methods that were feasible to implement. Having planned large scale events I knew that security measures that some think are "necessary" are not always practical or logistically possible depending on the venue. So I carefully complied ideas I knew would help based on my passed experiences and compiled them into a comprehensive plan. Mentioning that protocols from post 9-11 are not being used anymore (thanks to our "one-second" society!) but they weren't event used at the Boston Marathon, and since Boston, what has been done? We missed an opportunity between the Boston Marathon and Vegas to train again, or train those who are new to event planning and to brain storm other security measures using the new technology that's available. To become vigilant and they didn't!  Not only was my email seemingly ignored by those I contacted, but I was never contacted and then an article came out on 4/14/18 with my exact information, almost verbatim in order of how I laid out the plans. Sure enough its FBI, LEO's, Homeland Security and a couple CEO's taking credit. And oddly enough not one female is mentioned in the planning, coordinating or implementing of these ideas and new technology. I am disappointed on so many levels. While I am happy and thanking God these measures can be put in place to save lives - as they should have been years ago - I am disappointed I was not included and not able to help further. I've highlighted the parts directly taken from this email.

Not only in the IFEA Article that was released do they steal directly from my information, but they pat themselves on the back. I think one of the main reasons my emails were overlooked, was because I took a very humbling approach. I literally point out things that we should be doing, and had they be done in Vegas, it could of saved lives!! They should not be patting themselves on the back - but apologizing and kicking themselves in the ass!!

So, let me apologize in advance for the extra long entry today. This is my process since the Vegas Shooting my free time has been dedicated to not only researching - reading articles, social media, watching news or 20/20 documentary on the shooting, the lame excuse for an interview that Ellen did, interviewing witnesses, employees and more. In the moments following the shooting I had immediate ideas and concerns for what the Vegas event planner DID NOT DO and what we as event planners are not doing that could have saved lives. I immediately took notes, and began writing. I first sent this email (below) on 10/11/17 to Will at Hello Endless Entertainment a local A/V Event company, then on 10/20/17 to IFEA (International Festival and Events Association), as well as I followed up because I didn't hear anything on 10/30/17. After calling and leaving messages for two other IFEA employees, I finally went after a larger event security company and emailed Peter Ashwin of ERMS Global. He did respond but said he was busy and would get back to me. But did not. Honestly, it was right before the holidays and I figured it might take a while. However, I was not expecting this.

My Email in its entirety:
12/01/2017
Dear Mr. Peter Ashwin, 

I hope your well!! I was a long time member of IFEA in the AZ chapter and still attend APRA conferences (NRPA: national state, local parks and recreation), my name is Kathy Worrell. I've planned special events for over 18 years, in Mesa and Fountain hills, as well as on volunteer committees for Phoenix Fabulous forth, the Fiesta bowl and sat on the Superbowl Volunteer Sub Committee, etc. Sorry, the email is so long, I promise there are some great points and opportunity in here regarding the future of event security and technology!! 

I wanted to touch base because of the Vegas shooting and an epiphany I had; regarding special events, technology and security. 

I realize that IFEA has put out some safety and security training. I'm not concerned that training isn't available. My concern is - not everyone is taking it - it's not mandatory or required to have an event or become an event planner. The Security or safety training received is not always comprehensive or inclusive of different venues/events. It's also not standardized across both the public and private sectors. It's not getting to local municipalities, smaller event planners. So that's part of my solution here. 

I was born in Vegas and have family there, luckily none were at the concert. But my husband is a Mesa PD Officer and 3 of his off duty friends were in attendance. One was grazed in the face by a bullet. He was initially treated and released in Vegas and returned to AZ on that Monday. He later found out the person hit by the remaining bullet shrapnel had died. I've had a chance to talk to the Mesa PD Active Shooter trainer, and some Vegas PD staff that worked the aftermath in the department. And have made additions to my initial reaction. 

1) I was concerned that along with elements out of the control of the event planners (Live Nation?); that not enough security was done, and with the technology available today, it was not used efficiently enough to save or protect its attendees. (Just from the event planners scoop of resources, not including PD - I'll address that later. Just rent-a-security, vendors, rental equipment and staffing)

My instant thoughts were, as I watched the singer run off stage was there is a HUGE screen and open mic, not being utilized!! 

So:
A) Why wasn't a general Emergency message system in place to alert the attendees? "EMERGENCY IN PROGRESS, PLEASE EXIT EVENT". Via text message, or the HUGE screen or over the mic? The shooting lasted for 17 mins and during that time most people were confused, in denial and not aware of the gravity of the situation. We know this technology already exist, yet there was a failure to plan for it's use. Had it been used, people could have began to take cover, exit the event or clasp the severity of what was happening and act accordingly.

B) Cameras should not just be used to face the stage, but used to face the crowd and points of interest.
    B)1: maybe the use of body cameras is in order at events, not just for PD? But gate security and on site staff, etc. What vendors do we see being able to provide these resources?

C) Most of the time we place our security people (bodies) at gates, behind stages, info booths - regardless they are all at "ground level", not elevated positions OR rarely from a place "off site" to be able to be proactive, rather amongst the crowd who's "reacting" and not able to be "proactive". I'm thinking a van or conference room off site, with video and audio feeds.

D) Paper or wafer thin chips are already used in racing bibs, to track and time racers. Those hold the information of the runners. What if we placed them in event wrist bands? You enter the venue, you scan your licence/ID (like the devices we use for drinking (21 and older) events), you get an arm band. The info is associated with that band. And the same "timing" devices are used, when you leave, return or enter a different zone by walking over the device it logs it. This could of greatly helped in the aftermath of ID'ing people, counting people, as well as a comprehensive look at where or how people escaped. It also would have given us an accurate number of how many people were there for the actual shooting event. Many people had left because it was late, and for all we know some have never come forward.  For future reference this information is relevant in planning future events, even if it's not used in a tragedy like Vegas.

2) All these points are were I thought of IFEA and one of it's vendors, or a company being able to lead the way in event security and technology efficiency. I think this is definitely the way of the future of events. My initial thought was to secure events and protect the attendees, but I also think as I've outlined these products there is a business opportunity here as well. The research, testing and distribution of it. Implementing it and setting new standards.

For instance, a company can offer body cams, cameras for security reasons, drones for rent (Not just for taking great crowd pics), emergency systems, "smart wrist bands" AND provide or attend training in how and why they are important. I was thinking of eventually adding an annual or bi-annual "Event Security/Safety Submit". Not an optional "class" slipped into a week of conference. Where we include Homeland, FEMA, local PD, EMT and in my case, survivors and eye witnesses. But it should be mandatory. There should be, or we should discuss "certification of safety" for planners or for events. Where they submit and practice overall event safety in an on going, all inclusive practice. 

Let me know if you'd like to discuss this further. 



480-703-6208 or this email

While I know IFEA and or ERMS is capable with this information, I'm hoping if you see value in this and move forward, you'll consider taking me with you. I'd love to be a part of security accounts, coordinating products, planning the training or helping advise and/or test equipment. I'll even volunteer for right now. As I mentioned before my main concern is protecting American people's lives and making special events safer.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, again sorry so long but my combined event experience, along with my personal interest in this issue, just exploded in this comprehensive thought process. Below: More on helping events become more secure. But I cover training that was given 16 years ago and wasn't implemented in either the Boston marathon or the Vegas shooting. 

Sincerely, 
Kathy Worrell 

If you have time: my additional thoughts on why event planners (at a local govt level at least. Maybe you can provide insight in what the private sector learns) will need more security from their vendors. And the problem with the disconnect from PD, and then the disconnect from federal government.

After 9-11, Homeland security contacted me (at city of Mesa) 6 months later (that was probably fast back then) and requested information on vendors, sponsors, vehicles, maps and staff for the next 3 major events...as well as provided a training. But that was it, after Dec of 2002 they never contacted us again. I thought even though we had adopted a couple new security measures, that surely we'd need continuing training? (One measure we adopted was manned "break away" fencing in the large gaps between exits, so our crowd wasn't trapped or trampling each other, or if exits were blocked, emergency services could get in. And the security person manning it was supposed to cut open the gate and yell for people to go that way. Yet, it was clearly not a technique used in Boston or Vegas, some 16 years later?) What happened... I'm surprised there is not more required training or security certifications out there for event planners! I'm surprised how much is just left to local PD's and Fire Departments who oversee the event permits. They sometimes make decisions on placement and people without contacting the event planners. Mostly, these people show up the day of, and are not privy to the event details. Ironically, they may receive ongoing training but it's rarely shared with the govt event planners or rec departments, and I'm not sure what is required of the private sector. Furthermore, any non-profit, organization, church or school can apply for a special event permit. Regardless of event experience or training. 

This in my opinion has created the large disconnect, and the gap in communication. As well as I think created a false sense of security at events, as attendees, as planners. We event planners think the PD know what their doing, and we focus on bigger better events; they don't think like event planners and we don't think like PD.

Anyway, I've had or taken additional training by Homeland/FEMA (NSSE) and the Active Shooter training.

Then the Boston marathon happened, and honesty, we heard nothing from the govt, even as a govt entity. It's just concerning, that seemingly nothing changed between the Boston Marathon and the Vegas shooting!! Could a Safety Submit of all the brains together prevent or lessen the next attack? There seemed to be a missed opportunity there.

I think setting higher industry standards, providing additional resources for our member's - since our members are BOTH private and public sectors, is going to be very valuable!! I don't see the government trying anything like this. I think within their own organizations; FBI, PD's, etc, they think they can tackle it with increased presence and fire power. But lack of the willingness to approach event planners, or they aren't connecting the dots (for a lack of a better term). When we have the opportunity here to provide an effective educational opportunity here, an industry first, combining organization's knowledge. A platform for prevention.

Anyway, thanks again Mr. Ashwin! Please let know if you need any additional information, or want to talk! 
#choachella #eventsecurity #fbi #vegasshooting #VegasStrong #Sayyoursorry #drones #toolittletoolate

This was the email sent out 4-14-18: Supposedly complied by

"Coachella using drones, security plans enacted after 9/11 to prevent another Las Vegas-type incident"

Drones and more armed security will be employed at the Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival this month to help to prevent the kind of horrific attack that left 58 people dead at a Las Vegas music festival in in October.
Goldenvoice president and CEO Paul Tollett says a planned increase in armed security is proportionate with the festival’s growth and changes in society.
“It’s just a part of safety,” he said in an interview last month on the music festival grounds. “There are more people at the show, so, it’s a higher profile.”









Roughly 250,000 people are expected at the festival April 13-15 and April 20-22 at two Indio polo clubs, and Indio police say they can assure those fans, and their parents, that a nationwide team of law enforcement and security personnel are planning for every contingency learned from previous catastrophes.









“Our number one priority is public safety,” said public information officer Sgt. Dan Marshall. “We want people to know that they’re safe. We want people to know that we are well planned.”
Drones have been called a “radical” new security implementation. Marshall said their use is an experiment. Goldenvoice has contracted with a licensed, certified drone service to be put at the disposal of the Indio police. The department will use it to view traffic problems and “issues that pop up." But those issues are undetermined.
“We don’t know if this is the type of event that lends itself to (drones),” said Marshall. “We have to follow all rules. We can’t over-fly cars, we can’t over-fly crowds, we can’t do any of that stuff unless we deem that it’s a public safety issue. Then we could make that happen.









“(But,) let’s say we’re getting reports that there’s a lot of traffic at an intersection and the drone goes to look at that intersection. It can’t fly down the middle of the street. It has to stay in a route where it’s not over-flying homes or people or anything like that.
“We’re really this year going to see what their use is at this type of event.”
Marshall, like Tollett, declined to reveal details of the Coachella security plan. But, Marshall said most health and security measures are more subtle than drones and armed guards.
The plan to move the large, electronic music-filled Sahara tent west, away from the mid-size Mojave and Gobi tents, is significant, Marshall said, because it will lighten human traffic patterns. Security people look at whether a pass-through area is too narrow, causing congestion that increases stress, or too broad, which could cause the festival to lose space on another congested field at the Empire and Eldorado polo clubs.
Planners and security people, he said, have conversations as mundane as, “Man, I’m going to taper this cone pattern and make it 20 feet longer and that’s going to alleviate traffic just that much more!”

Security planning has been a priority since the festival’s launch in 1999, Tollett said. But more entities are now involved in the planning.
Following the shooting at the Route 91 Harvest Music festival in Las Vegas, plus mass killings in the past two years at nightclubs in Miami and Manchester, England, and the Bataclan Theatre in Paris, France, more than 1,000 live event producers gathered for an industry conference at the Las Vegas Mandalay Bay Resort and Casino, where a man had fired on Route 91 festival-goers from the 32nd floor just two months earlier.
Police, fire, federal Homeland Security officials, private security officials and even the head of customer safety for the Las Vegas Conventions and Visitors Authority spoke at the XLIVE conference on issues ranging from training to detect improvised explosive devices to a federal program that encourages promoters to share proprietary information with security partners by protecting them from civil liability and Freedom of Information Act requests.









The overriding message of a seminar and workshop on safety and security was, “The importance of planning can’t be overstated.”
Ashour Ebrahim, director of health and safety for AEG Presents, Goldenvoice’s partner in Coachella and many other music festivals across the country, said in an interview at the XLIVE conference he works with multiple law enforcement and security officials to create unique security plans for each festival.
“Coachella is a totally different environment and experience than a smaller venue we would have in, for example, Oklahoma (home of Rocklahoma), which is a heavy metal,” he said. “So, it can’t be one size fits all. Every festival, we look at their security plans and, if there’s a best practice, we adopt it.
“It takes all security professionals to work together with federal, state and local partners, private sector security companies. How are we going to try to prevent these (mass shooting) events from happening? That takes a lot of proper planning in order to see what the needs are.”









Some of the more visible measures the AEG and Goldenvoice security teams have implemented are walking metal detectors, or magnetometers, which measure changes in the magnetic field, and dog patrols.
“If you’ve been to Coachella, you see the police presence in trying to guide the traffic,” said Ebrahim, a former FBI official who had his own security firm before joining AEG. “If they’re standing in our queues, they see our security personnel. We have dog patrols, and those are tangible things that people can actually see. Granted, some people may feel, why do I have to have my bags searched? Well, it’s exactly for that reason. It’s a tangible approach. We’re not trying to inconvenience you, we’re trying to protect everyone else, including yourself.”









The way Coachella officials respond to emergency incidents is determined by a federal protocol for private and public sector agencies established after 9/11. President George W. Bush issued a Homeland Security Presidential Directive to establish a National Incident Management System, which led to the creation of a State Emergency Management System, known collectively NIMS SEMS.
In layman’s language, it ensures that police can talk to fire personnel, fire can talk to the ambulance operators, and the ambulances can talk to the police.
“When you get at that level of the person who’s actually trying to orchestrate and bring some calm and some order to a chaotic situation,” said Marshall, “communication among the first responders is paramount. That lesson was learned at 9/11, where even different fire departments could not talk to each other.”
Goldenvoice takes that communication protocol to another level: enabling first responders to communicate with their private security personnel.
“Something that makes this concert so amazing is that the promoter, Goldenvoice, has taken the time to invest that training to their staff,” said Marshall. “Law enforcement trains all their sworn officers in the basics of NIMS SEMS. As you move up in rank and positions of responsibility, you’re trained deeper in the operations of NIMS and SEMS, to where you are a director of a department or a commander.
“We operate under that purview with the first responders – police, fire, and AMR (American Medical Response). So, they’re part of the incident command. You have those three incident commanders in the same room and they all know how it’s supposed to run. You get that communication so you can get the resources you need to help people (and) contain the situation when you have an incident.
“Goldenvoice has done an amazing job, probably like no other company I’ve ever heard of, to train their people in this incident command system, to the point that I know when I look over to this security director, he understands that language because he has been through the same training as I have. To have first responders and civilians on the same page – in how the incident is going to be managed – that is remarkable. That is how things function and that’s why this festival has been so successful.”









The type of incident determines whether law enforcement, fire or AMR should be the main incident commander under the NIMS SEMS protocol. But, until a law has been broken, the Goldenvoice security team is in charge of protection. The AEG team works in concert with them.
“Law enforcement is there to help us, support us," Ebrahim said. "God forbids something happens, that’s when law enforcement will take over and we, as a private sector entity, will follow their instructions. Whether they’re state and local cops or whether the FBI comes in if it’s an act of terrorism, then we simply do whatever they tell us. If there’s nothing going on, we’re just running a show. They’re sitting in our command posts. If they see something they don’t like, they tell us, ‘Hey, can you put more guards over here?’ If we see something we don’t like, we tell them, ‘Hey, can you send a couple uniformed personnel to deal with this?’ It’s a partnership.”
The determination of whether an incident is an act of terrorism generally occurs after the incident has occurred, Marshall said. Then local law enforcement assists the FBI and Homeland Security. Before that, they're there to assist the Indio Police Department.
Marshall said public safety is their No. 1 priority, but Ebrahim said the private sector security doesn’t want the fans to have to be aware of that.









“People need to know we’re doing everything possible to make them safe,” he said. “So, as soon as they walk into any of our festivals, the only thing they want to consider is, ‘Where am I eating? Which act am I seeing?’ We want them to have a heck of a time and go back (on) social media, ‘Best time ever. I’m going to be going to Coachella for the next 20 years.’ That’s what I worry about. The fan experience. I don’t want them to think about security.”
The Indio Police is also using social media as a community tool. It was one of 15 law enforcement agencies in the U.S. selected to participate in a 21st Century Policing Initiative created by President Obama. Marshall was named head of the Indio Police Social Media Team last fall. The Indio Police now has more than 1,000 Twitter followers and 1,000 Instagram followers, and it reaches 8,000 households via Nextdoor.com.
The six pillars of the 21st century police initiative are transparency, legitimacy, social media, technology, officer safety and wellness. Police officers began carrying tourniquets two months ago to assist with wellness and that has already helped an officer save a life after an automobile accident.
Ebrahim said spending money on expensive technology isn’t always as important as good customer relations.
“We hire private security vendors and they do the vetting and validation of their guards, and they have to understand, we don’t want a bouncer mentality,” he said. “This is a guest experience and we as security, health and safety are all about that guest experience. We’d much rather say, ‘How can we help you?’ than ‘Why are you doing X, Y and Z?’ A smile on their face goes a long way. For us, our guest experience is our number one priority because we want them coming back and having a good time."









Marshall said that's not inconsistent with 21st century policing.
“It’s all about legitimacy,” he said. “If the people you’re serving don’t believe you have a legitimate purpose to police them, that’s where you get a lot of these communities that are at odds with the police.”
Tollett said planning is the number one thing a festival promoter can do to prevent mass violence.
“Having a plan for anticipation of troubles,” he said. “It’s just an ongoing, 365-day thing for us. Safety.”
But he also believes in using technology to assist law enforcement. Festival-goers must wear wristbands that contain chips that help count the number of festival-goers and identify when they come in and out of different parts of the fields.
“Because of the wristband thing, we have a system,” said Tollett. “We want to know who’s here. Everyone’s got documentation on a wristband. So, we know when they come in.”

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Breaking My Back to be Normal - 2007 to 2018




September and October, 2014
In 2004, I started seeing a chiropractor for back pain. I had a very physical job that required lifting, moving, stacking, and setting up large objects – stage equipment, tables, sand bags, trailers, fencing, tents, signs, chairs, etc. It also required lots of endurance such as working 16 to 19 hour days on occasion, while walking, standing and lifting all day during an event. Then there were other days where I sat for close to 8 to 10 hours at a desk. Although, I don’t remember, I was told I said to my Chiropractor on one of my visits that “I heard a ‘pop’ and felt pain” while at work, apparently pulling equipment out. I would go on to see the chiropractor as needed, I continued to work and workout regularly, with the occasional “flare up” and then I would rest. I would go through the “normal routine” of my recovery – Ice, rest, soak in a bath, go to chiropractor, use IcyHot patches and creams, meds, etc. This went on till September of 2007. I was still working full time, had been training for an upcoming 5K, had some aches and was notably “taking it easy”. I was at work attending a casual meeting when I decided to sit on the floor, a co-worker offered her heating pack and I laid back on it. When the meeting concluded, I could not get off the floor. I could not figure out what was wrong, but there was no angle, position or comfortable way to get up without excruciating pain. It was pain in my left leg that rendered it almost useless, I could not use, put weight on it or bend it. When they did get me up, I could not walk. Co-workers got me a walker to use from the center and I used that to get to a car. They took me to a chiropractor and he ordered imaging, and referred me to a doctor that could administer medication. I remember my husband coming to pick me up, and feeling so helpless.
The imaging would show a herniated disk at the L4/L5 and I was referred to a surgeon. Refusing to have surgery they offered an epidural, followed by physical therapy and rest. Luckily it worked. I felt better, had a baby in 2009 and would not have any issues till Jan 2012. I was standing in the bathroom at my mom's house doing my hair to go out. I started to feel a throbbing pain and intense pressure in my calf of my left leg. At first since it felt like a bad cramp, I tried to "stretch" it out by stepping back but that did not help or feel good, so I stopped, immediately took medications and then laid down with my legs up. It only continued to increase. I closed my eyes in pain at one point and didn't open them till I got to the hospital. I honestly didn't register that it was my back, it was ALL leg, I thought it was aneurysm in my calf. I thought at one point, from the feeling of pressure that my leg was going to explode. I couldn't walk, I told my husband to call 911. I was then taken by ambulance to the hospital. I remember asking the EMT's if I would walk again or be able to use that leg. I am sure they were confused but even after the medication I took (a pain and muscle relaxer) and the medication they gave me, I still did not feel any relief. At the hospital I remember asking for an ice pack for my leg because it still hurt and felt swollen. After a review of my medical history and some imaging, they told me it was coming from my back, it was still hard to believe.     

I returned to to my surgical doctors had more imaging done and tried the epidural again. This time there was a very brief relief, so I was given 2 more epidurals - when allowed (timing) and given the max amount during an 18 month period. I was also given narcotic medications, steroids, pain patches, physical therapy and exercises to do. When that did not work over the next year, I took more imagining (below) and decided I would have to consider surgery.   

My image from 2014.
So, I had a disectomy in Feb. 2014 to remove that large herniation at the L4/L5. I planned on three weeks to six week off and only took 2 ½ with going back to work part time for a week and a ½. I remember it being a lot more painful than I thought it would be for a whole lot longer than I was told it would. The next day, initially I felt better. Then the next day I felt a little worse and day four was worse than day before. I saw the doctor, he told me I had a major injury and my body would need time to recuperate and heal. That the fatigue I felt was normal and that some people take longer than others. I thought, I am not “some people” or “other people”. I am usually the exception. I recuperate quickly, I do well in surgery, I don’t get infections, I don’t have complications, I am a very positive person who wants to be normal and healthy. This was making me feel out of control, a little helpless and less optimistic. When I did return to work, it was difficult to sit for long periods, hence the half days. After 4 hours the pain while sitting at a desk; was making me irritable and I could not wait to get home to take some medication and lay down on some ice. Even the 45 min drive home had me squirming in pain as I tried in vain to change positions. I would literally open the door to the car before the keys came out, trying to get out. Then by the second week, I felt a different kind of pain, a throbbing, intense swelling that was preventing me from sitting or sleeping very well. I went back to the doctor thinking it had re-herniated the disk. The doctor confirmed it was not herniated but that I had a swollen tailbone from the surgery. 
This is healing scar from the surgery, approximately 4 days later. 

This is from my journal:
"To this day, in September 10, 2014, and seven months later, I still don’t feel completely better. I have not and don’t feel I can return to my normal activates. Even though the doctor suggested going back to “normal activities”, I can’t. I don’t have the strength. I still very weak and “injured” somehow. I have not attempted to go back to working out, running, or even walking the dogs. Obviously, I was better than the day I had excruciating pain and couldn't get off the floor, but I was defiantly not all better. Not the way I had expected and not the way the doctors, websites and brochures promised. I am not only physically exhausted from aches and pains, from feeling limited but I am mentally exhausted and emotional from frustration."

Then just a couple weeks later in November 2014, less than a year later, as we were moving houses my L4/L5 herniated again. Again it was not an injury per se, not a specific incident but a gradual and consistently growing pain that came on and I just knew. I returned the doctor and after imaging confirmed a herniation, their suggestion was to do the surgery (a discsectomy) again. He said the imaging showed it not only herniated but it was worse than the first time. It protruded out further as well as out to each side, causing significant narrowing of the spinal canal as pressure on surrounding on nerves. His reasoning for another discsectomy was my young age and the “three strikes and your out” (meaning if it herniates 3 times, THEN he would suggest a different more invasive and dramatic surgery called a disc removal). I got a second opinion and that doctor agreed with my original surgeon, so I stayed with my doctor and scheduled another surgery. My second surgery was done in Dec of 2015.

Going to the doctor, the chiropractor and the physical therapy almost became a part time job. It felt like all my spare time was going to scheduling and attending doctor appointments. Then down time was spent resting if I could. I eventually stopped working because sitting for 6 to 8 hours was not helping and caused more pain. As well I was unable to lift, push or pull the "min required 50lbs +" on occasion.

Here are the photos from the second surgery. Basically Day 1, 2 and 3. It seemed to be a little more irritated this time. My skin had an allergic reaction to the adhesive they used. You can see in the 3rd photo there are actually welts where the "tape" was. The skin bubbled, swelled and was red until I removed it. I bought different kinds the store to put back on it and "secure" it. But in the following pictures from days 7, 12 and 14; you can see the skin was still bubbling and pealing from irritation. At that time I was able to take all adhesive off of the incision and it began to heal properly.






1/19/16 Journal:
"Sometimes I am surprised by my physical limitations. I clearly haven’t set any in my mind yet, because I think I’m going to get something done or I begin a project and I am not able to finish. I defiantly set out with the intentions of completely a lot and then, I’m disappointed when I literally have to lie down for relief or from exhaustion. And not exhausted from exerting myself, but exhausted from pain. I simply "live with it" most of the time and only take stronger medications when I literally can't stand it anymore. For instance today, I thought I would unload the dishwasher and load it again. As I got towards the middle of unloading, I realize there is significant reaching and bending involved, but I started to feel pain and stiffness in my lower back. I remember being able to dance on a dance floor for hours at a time, bending, twisting, shimmying, jumping and not feel it till the alarm went off the next morning. I feel defeated when I take my kids to the zoo and walk until I can't anymore, then feel bad that we have to leave abruptly. I used to be able to easily go to the zoo and push a stroller or stand for hours at events, and now I can barely do rigorous house work."

I am glad I keep a journal because like more things, we forget small details or over time the details fade or lessen. Or in this case how much time has gone by. In my mind sometimes, my back injury seems "new", and others it seems like I have always had it. But then when I look back through journals and look at dates and how I was feeling, I see that it hasn't been that long - or in the later case, I realize it's been going on for years!
So the journey continues. Almost years later, while I was able to still complete most tasks, I briefly returned to running and exercise, I still had complications or "flare ups" that are debilitating. I did get pregnant again in 2017 and pregnancy - this time was increasingly difficult on my back. Unlike the first two, I had really bad pregnancy sciatic, trouble sleeping, leg pain, varicose veins, back pain and back labor. Different from my on going back pain, this was very much due to weight and the baby. I tried very hard and did really well, not to gain too much - only 17 lbs, but it was still very difficult. The last two months were the worst. I honestly thought I was going to have to have back surgery again. I wasn't sleeping at all, I couldn't bend over, get out of the tub, get dressed, walk very far or get any relief. But luckily, the pain went away after I gave birth. I had another natural birth and there were no complications because of my back. I lost my baby weight almost right away, and all of the 17lbs by 4 weeks. It has now been months and I am still doing OK. I can sleep at night, the varicose veins have almost gone away. There are still times I feel some weakness or "strains" but I no longer think I will need another surgery any time soon! Fingers crossed!! 

Cruise Vacation with a 2 year old - First cruise for baby!

Cruises with a two year old!
This is helpful information, photos and tips about our successful and fun cruise with our 2 year old daughter for the first time. Including costs, things we'd do differently and what to pack and what was worth the money. It should be noted that we have cruised numerous times in the past and were really familiar with the cruise line, room accommodations and on board amenities. It was our first cruise on this particular ship and our first cruise with a small child. Which if you're a young couple without kids, you rarely pay attention to what's available for kids until you have them. So for me, I felt I needed to research the trip as if I was new to cruising! I searched the cruises website for activities for kids, ages, costs, availability, procedures and policies regarding boarding, eating, participation in activities, poolside policy, luggage, storage, and more. But I found it was not much help, I was still filled with anxiety about either missing out on something, not being prepared and/or not being able to enjoy myself because something was going to go wrong or was difficult. 
This is us getting to our room! We traveled with other family too.

However, with this article, I hope to answer and address all the concerns of new traveling parents. I hope it will set your mind at ease that it is possible and really fun! Cruising can be overwhelming for anyone, especially newcomers but our cruise went much better than expected and we've gone again.
We choose Royal Caribbean Cruise Lines  (RCCL) because we are members of the loyalty rewards program. Note: that with your child's (or spouse) first cruise, that person will automatically be given YOUR highest membership level! A huge benefit!! And RCCL also has the "DreamWorks" experience on board for children, which includes meeting the characters, photos with characters, DreamWorks movies played in the rooms, in the theater and up on deck at the outdoor amphitheater. Character themed breakfast, live entertainment, parades, merchandise and activities in the kids programs.
Us at the character breakfast with Alex the Lion from Madagascar.

 RCCL also has a contract with or a partnership with Fisher Price. This meant they had a plethora of Fisher Price toys, activities and programs; such as coloring pages, a Fisher Price "Birthday Party", crafts all during the "Adventure Ocean Youth Programs" and a small child activity room that was full of toys! I felt RCCL exceeded our expectations and meet our needs at every level. They made us feel more comfortable regarding safety than I ever imagined and we all enjoyed ourselves so much, I had no regrets about traveling with a small child!
The room with a million toys!!

RCCL offers a range of age separated and appropriate programs:
But before I go into detail here are some bullet points of the best kid and parent friendly accommodations.
- A very clear schedule of events/activities for both adults and children delivered to your room the night before.
- Babysitting options for almost all hours of the day, for almost all ages and during the ships dock time. So you can go on excursions and safely leave your child on board.
- For parents of children under 3, you are given a special Satellite phone for staying in contact with the ship and vice versa. More charges apply for babysitting but they are reasonable.
- For older children the programs, activities and events increase and are more interesting. My daughter made slime, a chefs hat, a pillowcase, a pirates outfit...they have a range of themes for each day and rooms for activities such as an art room,  a science lab, a kitchen and more! They even went on "field trips" around the ship to the carousel, the doughnut shop, the cupcake shop, the bridge to see the captain and some crew, and visited with some of the entertainment behind the scenes. I realize these activities will vary per ship. 
On the carousal. Tip: In order to get dressed in a timely manner for dinner, I often bribed her with going on the carousal before dinner. It was right up stairs from us, on the way to dinner. If you can plan where you stay on the ship to be closest to the dinning room and an elevator. It makes for easy access and less distractions. Long halls can be a hassle if you have to wait on or carry a young child!! Plus kids LOVE elevators, it was also a trick I used to get her to move along.

- Signage that is easy to read, clear and helpful resources for all activities, on board places (restaurants, pools, children's center, events and excursions), including wait times, busyness and hours of operations.
- FREE on board: Carousel, 3D movie theater, doughnut shop, a LARGE splash pad/kiddie pool, a soft serve ice cream machine at the pool, kid food at every meal and in every restaurant, kid slide and play place at amphitheater, large Fisher Price padded play room, DreamWorks character encounters, such as a character breakfast, a character parade and shows staring the characters.
The kiddie splash pad and pool.

-FREE in room: bag of Fisher Price toys which you can switch out every day, movies and shows on the TV, fridge for storing kids food and drinks, crib if needed.
-Diaper genies, baby wipes and changing tables in all the public restrooms
Playing at the beach, on excursion with some of the toys we got from RCCL.
TIPS:
1) You can bring your own case of bottled water with you and store it in your room if you have a medical condition, which includes small children (formula, etc)
2) You can ask your room stewards to clear items from your mini fridge to make room for your items  (we'd store our water bottles, fresh fruit and milk cartons we took from breakfast)
3) You can also ask the steward to store large items that might take up room in your stateroom. I.e. carseat or strollers (varies per ship)
4) If at least one person takes a hot shower before bed, it will leave the room with a bit of moisture in the air which helps with the kids (and sometimes adults) stuffiness! I make sure it's on long enough to steam up the mirrors.
5) Look online such as Pintrest or on Facebook for packing and cruise tips. i.e. taking and hanging a shoe organizer for shoes, toiletries, and other items for easy access and keep them visible. Sometimes small baby shoes are hard to keep track of in a tiny room!
6) We always take a white noise machine - or these days we loaded a white noise app on our iPad for baby's nap and sleep time to drown out the ships noises, as well as our noises from sleeping in the same room.
7) Except for a couple favorite toys, or something to keep the kids busy on the plane trip or while waiting to board, there is NO reason to over pack on toys!! I always like to have one new toy that I buy and give to them on the plane but there were so many toys to play with between what was provided, what was on the ship, and so many activities, plus the pool, kept her plenty BUSY!! These days a rented movie or new app could keep the little just as busy!
This is her at diner. Although we did bring some easy kid food and snacks, and a couple sippy cups from on the go - we needed very little. She got milk, chocolate milk or juice at dinner. And ordered fruit cups, chicken nuggets or speghetti and ice cream at dinner. Although she did eat and try other things
When on a cruise, even before kids...it was always my favorite time to get in family pictures! Your dressed up, having fun and there are so many opportunities, you'll have plenty of photos to pick from.







She enjoyed the characters but also liked "dressing up" with daddy and mommy! It took a lot of planning but I planned out in advance our themes. You don't have to do that, because you might only be interested in one family photo or formal. But I wasn't sure how many would turn out. In this case. I loved them all and it worked out. We had a Black tie night, a Purple night, an ASU sports causal night, Orange tropical night and a Grey/White casual night. We also pack outfits for boarding day. They take this great Boarding picture with your ship and its name and the date on it. I love making that the first picture in our scrapbook. We usually wear nautical colors, like strips and R/W/B - But make it your own and have fun!